dabaers Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 Hey you there! Yes you! Are you tired of jerking off alone in your room? Are you miserable at how your life has been? Are you afraid to grow some balls and do something with your life? Well do I have the solution for you! Don't masturbate. To be honest, I was addicted to internet porn. Every day I would go home from school, play some TF2, pretend to do my homework, and go jerk off. It got to the point where I couldnt go to sleep at night without playing with little Johnny for an hour or two every night. The porn got increasingly violent and I started to scare myself with what I was watching. This had escalated since I was 11. That seems frighteningly young now that I look back on it. I was increasingly miserable and started to struggle with a sort of minor depression 2 years ago. My grades werent all that great, acceptable at the least, and girls were the scariest thing ever. I felt like shit, I knew I looked like shit, and I didn't know what to do with myself. After 5 years, porn had just become natural to me; a part of my day. It wasn't until maybe 5 months ago did I realize what my problem was. That's when I had enough. I was sick and tired of having to hide my phone, getting scared of family walking in on me, and wondering if evidence of my misdeeds were becoming increasingly obvious. So I stopped. Just for 3 days. Those 3 days were absolutely amazing. I didn't feel like a sack of potatoes and I felt alive for the first time in forever. Until I masturbated again of course. But I had learned from the experience, and I wanted to try it again. So for the next couple of months, I masturbated on and off, feeling better but always came crashing down. I knew I needed to stop, I just couldn't bring myself to do it. Porn was a drug. It has all of the same characteristics of a drug after all. A short, exhilarating high followed by harsh lows, gradual desensitization, having to hide your addictions from others, etc. But exactly 100 days ago, I said enough was enough. I stopped watching porn, I stopped whacking the weasel, I stopped the endless cycle of self-hatred. Those past 100 days haven't been the best of my life, but my god do I feel the best. My self-confidence has shot through the roof and I have so much more energy now. Talking to people has become less of an awkward shuffling of dialogue to an enjoyable social interaction. No longer do I look at girls and envision what horrible things I would do but instead look at them with respect and pursue real interactions with people. Most importantly (foul language incoming), I grew a pair of fucking balls and feel like I can actually live rather than be a shit-faced, ass-smelling parasite in the disguise of a human being. Porn isn't healthy and it shouldn't be normal. Its not real sex. They dont call them porn actresses for nothing. Porn takes all the emotions out, adds short guys with giant dicks with even smaller women, and bundles it up in convenient little video files for you to watch when you feel like crap after failing to obtain any sort of success. Seeing a beautiful and desirable girl in real life made me want to rub one quickly in the secret of my bedroom. Alone. Am I the only one who wonders how in the world this can happen? A natural and healthy reaction to seeing a woman you desire is to feel the burning need to talk to her and to start an interaction with her. Porn took that all away. You might say that puberty was the cause for all of this sexual objectification. But is that what I desired? An attractive member of the opposite gender or a way to speed up the process of an orgasm? To be honest, I don't see anything positive that porn had brought me. All it had brought me was pain in all aspects of my life. Sure, the benefits of quitting are all pseudoscience and largely emotional, but I can't stress enough how much of a benefit it has been. Take just one week off. You won't know how you'll feel until you try. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
♥Prof. Sugarcube♥ Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 I've never masturbated. /thread I'm being legit. #NoFapLifetime Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ProPain Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 Masturbation is healthy, just don't get obsessed with it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DarkFyre Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 What did I just read? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zefrom Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 I masturbate to adjust my genitals to the right position, that way I don't scratch it You mastubate to give yourself pleasure usually. Mercer seen females masturbate. Most of us are underage so we shouldn't do it for pleasure. Porn is terrible, I can safely say most people who watch porn are pricks and dicks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
praise Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 Very well said. It's nice to see someone is really taking life seriously these days. Congrats dabaers Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grimes Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 /r/nofap Like most things, it's ok in moderation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cedarium Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 I once decided to take a break. Did without it for a while, but it didn't do much for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
knavesmith Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 I don't think 50% of those who fap on this community could go a week without giving their junk a quick peek. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heated Bread Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 I like jerking off. I think I'll keep doing it, but thanks for your concern. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlaqkAudio Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 Weirdest thing I read all month but honestly it takes real stones to say something like this because you're right and not a lot of people would say something like that to begin with. Anyone can become addicted to anything. And once it gets in the way of life, that becomes a problem. Glad to hear that you did something to stop it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zefrom Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 Very well said. It's nice to see someone is really taking life seriously these days. Congrats dabaers Thank you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twishine Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 This is totally not going to be awkward at all, because gosh darn I'm pretty sure that unless priests or nuns browse the forums, everyone of us have seen porn. I've seen a lot of it. Gosh darn I'm not going up to my parents and bringing that fact out because that's inappropriate, but you know, since we're all talking about it, yeah. Why should I lie about it? There's really nothing to gain. And honestly, I don't mean to undermine your speech dabaers, but I've always been comfortable with people. Of course, at the same time I wasn't so much worrying as you seemed to be, but I got over my fear of girls when I was in middle school. And about your first statement, I'm miserable because I procrastinate to hell, the expectations that are set upon me are pretty staggering, and I fear failure. Of course, I'm not miserable all the time, work satisfies me because for those few hours, there isn't ANYTHING else I need to worry about besides serving the customer a good meal. I'll probably make a thread whenever I'm less stressed and not focused on the week's work... tl;dr, don't worry about spanking the monkey (find a good time that is unlikely to have anyone walk in, keep it clean), and make sure to live life. Do your work, have fun. Edit: Gosh darn I'm also tired and probably wrote things wrong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Erazorize Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 I may not be a common poster on these forums, but I agree with what you said. It's been two months since I last went back to it, and I don't recall anything happy when I was in that phase. In fact, I feel elated. Many people who get into it harshly regret it later down the road, and I sure did. It hits people at a young age, and can pose some very serious side effects. I may not be an important person in the TF2 community (or in general), but I want to thank you for what you said. You have the right to disagree with my opinion all you want, I won't judge you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cedarium Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 Anyways, most of your post seems to be about the porn, not the actual masturbation. Unless I'm reading it wrong, which is fairly likely for myself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dabaers Posted October 6, 2014 Author Share Posted October 6, 2014 Anyways, most of your post seems to be about the porn, not the actual masturbation. Unless I'm reading it wrong, which is fairly likely for myself. Pornography was the most important thing to give it. Mastrubation won't wreck you every once in a while, but neither will cigarettes. The two went hand in hand, and to give up one meant giving up the other. I still don't reccomend it, but more than once a week is too much. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charity Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 Real girls have cooties. This is why I have hot anime babes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cedarium Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 Pornography was the most important thing to give it. Mastrubation won't wreck you every once in a while, but neither will cigarettes. The two went hand in hand, and to give up one meant giving up the other. I still don't reccomend it, but more than once a week is too much. I don't watch porn, but I still masturbate. Since I don't particularity like porn that was easy to avoid. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ProPain Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 Pornography was the most important thing to give it. Mastrubation won't wreck you every once in a while, but neither will cigarettes. The two went hand in hand, and to give up one meant giving up the other. I still don't reccomend it, but more than once a week is too much. Cigarettes are actually awful, they are physically addictive and they are really bad for your health. While masturbation has some actual benefits, masturbation doesn't equal to pornography. Pornography was invented around 100 years ago, humans already masturbated a long time ago before that That being said, i think it's great if you find your life a lot better without masturbation and pornography. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dabaers Posted October 6, 2014 Author Share Posted October 6, 2014 Cigarettes are actually awful, they are physically addictive and they are really bad for your health. While masturbation has some actual benefits. I have nothing against your argument and i think it's great if you find your life a lot better without it. Woops, bad analogy. Glad to see some maturity and respect. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
¬°BurningKirby Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 In my experience, stopping for a while(a couple days, week, whatever) doesn't make you feel amazing, or above everything, or any of that. I never felt like crap while doing it and I sure didn't feel any different when I stopped. The only difference I have noticed is after a break, it only makes it all the better when you finally get back to it. It sounds to me like those who did see a noticeable change in themselves may have been mistaking masturbation as the root problem when really it may have been attributed more to the way you handled it. You treated it as if it was some evil thing that must be kept secret, when it's not something to get all worked up over. Due to this, you felt dirty, bad, and blamed yourself for it. As many doctors have said, it is natural, and it is something that you begin to experiment with way before you have access to a computer. Now I'm not saying you should go around doing it everywhere and anytime, since it's been made into something bad by society and that may or may not get you arrested. Just try not to treat yourself badly because you think you are doing something wrong. You aren't hurting anyone. In fact you likely started doing it to achieve exactly the opposite of hurting yourself. Keep that in mind and you should be golden. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
♥Prof. Sugarcube♥ Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 You can masturbate for all I care It's your fetish, no one has the authority to tell you otherwise Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CrafterofGenius Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 Don't tell me how to live my life! Brb beating my meat like it owes me money. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spicy Ham Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 Correlation does not equal causation I wank to animu faggotry every day and I'm loving my current situation in life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pwndaz! Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 k lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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