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Long story short I was in a relationship back last year or so and she did not handle the breakup very well and nearly tried to fuck me over for good.

 

I started getting dreams again of us being in love again and having good times, And since then it's just been a rough ride for me with everywhere I go nearly having people in love and shit while I look at myself and think I don't have a chance.

What do I do?

EDIT: I'm not looking for like to go on a date or something that complex to me, Just something to do to get the thoughts out of my head.

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What do I do?

 

Move on. And when you get those thoughts or dreams again, you move on again. And you keep moving on and moving forward.

Things ended for a reason.

 

Find something to focus on. Start a new hobby, take up an extra curricular class. Do something that will better your future and career rather than looking back and ceasing your progress to move forwards.

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There are plenty of ways to get thoughts out of your head, just depends which one you mean.

Go to the movies in the evening with friends or something, healthy distractions are nice.

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Doing something else entirely helps, I usually buy something to take my mind off things because I like doing that. Do something that you like to take your mind off of things, most relationships are terrible to begin with because of some deep-seeded issue with the person(s), so it's not worth thinking about. â€‹

Learn from this experience, women that try to fuck you over are everywhere. Be on your guard, son.

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alcohol

Ban yourself please

 

Anyway, I just move on to someone else. I was lucky enough to have my ex forgive me, and we got back together and we're still going, but I would just move on. Maybe try an internet relationship?

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Roastededededed

Porn.

Something similar happened to me a few weeks ago, I noticed a change in me while it was. Everything that happened I tried blaming myself for, when really it wasn't my fault at all. dont be hard on yourself, she wants you to do that, think about yourself, go jogging or biking to get your mind off of it. moving on is hard but when you get over the hill its the best feeling just being able to ride down.

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Roastededededed

Porn.

Something similar happened to me a few weeks ago, I noticed a change in me while it was. Everything that happened I tried blaming myself for, when really it wasn't my fault at all. dont be hard on yourself, she wants you to do that, think about yourself, go jogging or biking to get your mind off of it. moving on is hard but when you get over the hill its the best feeling just being able to ride down.

Plus think about it, as long as you can love yourself, you really don't need anyone else.

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It eventually goes away. I mean I used not be able to sleep, eat anything I thought my life was over. I thought I ruined my chances, I thought it was all my fault she was the perfect one and I was the failure. However once I looked back on it I got to seeing hey maybe she wasn't so perfect. I deserve better and it was actually kind of a good thing. Now I am not saying that your ex was horrible or anything I have no idea, but in my case she actually was and I am a better person now. Sure I get those moments where she creeps back into my head and I can't even breathe. I don't think she will ever be completely gone to be honest... but I am starting over going 6 months so far and all good, but I won't make this all about me its about you man and what helped the most was putting myself out there ya know? Just trying new things just putting more effort into stuff. You can maybe get something you always wanted or just spend more time with your family. Appreciate who has stuck with you and will always be there for you because they are the ones you can go to. Don't let it get to you, you are going to meet SO many more people in your life more than you can possibly imagine. Yeah the whole more fish in the sea thing is kinda corny but its true there is always someone else out there. You just have to find them sure it is a game of trial and error, but each time you learn a little more about yourself and better yourself. You are gonna be just fine just you wait.

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Like most people on the thread just try to move on. I mean you survived without a relationship with another person before you started so I mean its not the end of the world. as a hobby I would try TF2 trading and just get some new games when the summer sale happens. because this day and age its hard to find a relationship that's gonna stick and which both people stay happy. 

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Foamy the Fearsome

Start making suggestions. (thats actually what I did last time).

I generally get into something I enjoy doing; usually things that either require a lot of attention or a lot of time. Things you can be occupied with subconsciously, as that's where your thoughts from the past come from. "moving on to someone else" can work, but dont rush into something new. At the end of a relationship, anyone that moves closer to you can trigger your subconscious thoughts of your ex, and therefore youre more susceptible to infatuation, which is likely to end up fading away again once you've 'moved on'

 

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Like everyone said, distractions are good. Personally, I find the best way to get over somebody is to get under somebody. :P

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I also had a similar situation. I was also going through a breakup with the person I loved, and it was very difficult for me. I also like you wrote on the forums, so that people would help me. But, the only thing that helped me was reading the literature, and different articles on different sites, for example this https://breakupangels.com/why-man-want-to-come-back-after-a-breakup/ . And how do you deal with your problems in your personal life, whether you have had such an experience, I would be very interested for you to share your opinion. And on your question, my advice to you is try to fap, that's it :)

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54 minutes ago, PaulZussman said:

just fap dude

this was five years ago..if OP still hasnt gotten an answer for his problem,then idk what will although others have given the same answer you gave

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